I wonder if anyone else here has had this same problem… As I’ve gotten older and become more independent and responsible (i.e. working, maintaining my own finances while helping my parents with theirs, moving out of my parents place, etc.), I’ve become increasingly resentful, frustrated, and even a little disgusted with one of my best friends. I’ve grown up; but she still acts like a petulant teenager. I don’t know how to deal with her and I’m posting this in the hopes that someone here can offer some helpful insight. I have a feeling that this problem is likely common with other people my age. My friend Anna (not her real name, BTW) is 25-years-old, has never held a job, spends most of her time on MMORPGs, and blames nearly every problem in her life on her Mother and Step-Father. She lives with them and says they’re very emotionally abusive toward her (which, from what I’ve seen of them, is probably true). For the past 5 or so years that I’ve known her, I’ve felt bad for her because she seemed to have no way to escape her bad circumstances. However, about two years ago she got a large inheritance from her father. She now has the financial means to get out (and she’s been saying for years that she’d do ANYTHING to get away from her Mother and Step-Father’s house), and yet she keeps making dumb excuses about why she can’t. For example, she bought a car and insurance months ago (in order to make it easier to get a job and leave the house when her Mother and Step-Father bothered her), but she hasn’t received her license yet because, and I’m quoting her here, “My mother insists on being the one to teach me how to drive but never finds the time to do it”. So she’s throwing money away every month insuring a car that’s just rotting in her driveway! When I suggested she just pay for behind-the-wheel instruction with a professional (like I did when my parents were too busy/lazy/scared to teach me), she said she was afraid her Mom would be mad at her and her only option was to keep throwing money down the crapper while waiting for her mom to get in a good mood and drive with her. This excuse is REALLY infuriating to me because I own a car (and it took me 3 years to save up for it!) but I can’t legally drive it right now because I don’t make enough to get insurance. She complains about how she can’t get health insurance because she’s had mental health problems and is obese (and claims that the obesity is due to a thyroid problem). But I’ve seen her eat large pizzas and whole liters of soda in one sitting. And she’s taking medication for the thyroid problem anyway; so she can’t blame her weight on that. Her childish behavior frustrates me. And, at times, I even wonder if the friendship is worth it. In my opinion, once a person reaches a certain age, they need to take responsibility for their own life and stop blaming Mommy and Daddy when life sucks (no matter how much Mommy and Daddy might deserve it). However, despite all that, I still love Anna, I want to help her, and I don’t want to cut her out of my life completely. But my biggest fear is that I won’t be able to resist the urge to just unload on her next time we’re together. I’ve thought about giving her a “tough love” talk to urge her to grow up and take some personal responsibility for once. But she has mental health issues (she says she has a mild case of autism and has contemplated suicide before) and I’m afraid that having a major fight with her only offline friend might drive her over the edge. So I’m hoping someone here can relate to this problem and offer some advice and/or personal stories about it. I have a feeling that, if I don’t do something soon, she is going to just keep self-destructing. But I have no idea how to help her or how to discuss it with her without getting angry/emotional and possibly driving her to do something destructive.