Do you plan to have kids?

NewMaxFranklin · 09-02-2001, 06:39 PM

I 've discussed this with my sister a few times. I'm sure many of you haven't given this any thought. That's fine. I actually think it's pretty weird that I've thought about it at my age, in my dateless state.

Personally, I believe that many people have children for the wrong reasons. IMO, the only valid reason for having a child/childern is because you believe you can raise a child who can impact the world in a positive way. But, even then, adoption or mentoring is an alternative.

In todays society a lot of people are having kids for the wrong reasons. There are the obvious cases; like welfare familys with tons of children, leaching of the working people. But, equally damaging are the average couples who have kids for selfish reasons; lonelyness, immortalization, fitting in with friends/ family, etc.

Weather or not I have children will probably depend on my future wife. But, I really don't want more than one, two tops. I could do without any. Well, that's what I think now anyway.

**optimal321** · 09-02-2001, 06:48 PM

Well, kids for me too, is like, ten million steps ahead of me. But someday, i really do want to have kids. To have my own blood that i can raise as my own, and teach to be the best person this world could ever know would be great.

I'll probably want two kids. I really don't want a middle child, having been one myself. Now, my parents really did a great job, but i'm still a little neglected because i'm in the middle. Not that i'd do anything different if i ended up w/ three kids.

Of course, i have to wait and see what happens. I'm still working on getting my first girlfriend. But it does sound nice.

*Post 500, btw!!! Go optimal!!!*

**I.R Joey** · 09-02-2001, 06:48 PM

No more then 1 actually.

**Calhoun07** · 09-02-2001, 06:52 PM

"Yes, for dessert!"-Hannibal Lecter

just kidding

Actually, I can't have kids, as I am a guy, but hopefully I will find a lady one day who will beable to bear them for me.

**Leaping Larry Jojo** · 09-02-2001, 06:56 PM

I'm a romantic. I want to fall in love with a nice dame and raise a family. Even though I haven't experienced it yet, I have to believe that raising a child (or children) and seeing him or her grow up MUST be one of the most rewarding things in life. And I want to experience that.

**BourgeoisBuffoon** · 09-02-2001, 07:37 PM

I'd like to have a family and raise kids as well, but I doubt I'll raise them right-I'm terribly lazy and not too energetic. Besides, I figure I should enjoy single life...
....it's awful if someone raised kids just because they were lonely. I would raise kids only for love (assuming I go and raise some). Immortialization sounds even worse....makes it sound like the parent will try to get his/her kid to live up to many expectations they may not get to live up to...

**Leaping Larry Jojo** · 09-02-2001, 07:42 PM

My father is terribly lazy and not very energetic, and I think I turned out okay. Right? RIGGGGHHT???

**Bud 'n Lou** · 09-02-2001, 07:50 PM

Actually, I was thinking about this the other day. I'm actually kinda scared of the idea. I'd probably lose my mind and end up going all Joan Crawford and start beating them with wire hangers. My family is pretty messed up as it is. I definately would feel guilty about spreading those messed up genes, which would likely doom the child to a miserable life. If I were to agree to have a child (and I've already decided it would be best to only have ONE) I would insist that my partner be the donor. That way, I could blame him if it turns out messed up. :O)

**BourgeoisBuffoon** · 09-02-2001, 07:53 PM

(Sighs) Well, when I meant lazy, I doubt I'll have a good job...
....as for energetic, not nessacarily in the type as having enough to go out and one a marathon, but more along the lines of never doing anything...

....and I say you turned out all right, since you post very intullectual posts that leave me saying "ahhh...." or scratching my head.

I am afraid of being a deadbeat, that's all...

**Nightflower** · 09-02-2001, 08:09 PM

Never want kids. Not one. Ugh. So many reasons... I don't like kids, I don't see what's so cute about them. I have a low pain threshold (Or is it high?) and couldn't stand labor. I'd probably end up like my mom (Who is a world-class witch. Except with a B. She told me I couldn't date black guys because then my babies would be ugly! And that's when she's in a good mood). I'd either spoil my offspring or traumatize them. Plus I don't even know if I can take care of myself, let alone have another life in my hands.

My boyfriend said he wanted a child. (In the future! Yeesh) I find that guys seem to want kids more than girls, but that's just from my observations.

NewMaxFranklin · 09-02-2001, 08:42 PM

Originally posted by Nightflower
I find that guys seem to want kids more than girls, but that's just from my observations.

I thinks that's a fair observation. It probably has to do with human biology. Guys reach the peak of their sexual drive earlier in life than women. Women hit it in their thirties; Guys in their late teens. So when women are thirty something, if not yet married w/children, they start feeling the need. I guess that's the reference to the "biological clock," and all.

When guy's "settle down," it's due more to lack of energy than desire.

I believe most women develope "life goals" and work towards them from a young age, altering their goals as they go. Guys, on the other hand, have a list of things to do before they turn into their fathers. Then, when they're no longer young men, they appreciate the little things and become acclimated; they learn to go with the flow. Then the mid-life crissis kicks in. Which I believe to be unique to men. Mom hits her stide around the time Dad starts to revolt against becoming an old man.

-Just my take on it.-

**Leaping Larry Jojo** · 09-02-2001, 08:54 PM

Originally posted by BourgeoisBuffoon
(Sighs) Well, when I meant lazy, I doubt I'll have a good job...
....as for energetic, not nessacarily in the type as having enough to go out and one a marathon, but more along the lines of never doing anything...

....and I say you turned out all right, since you post very intullectual posts that leave me saying "ahhh...." or scratching my head.

That's not intellectual; that's just me being weird and hippie-like. I was born in the wrong era.

**Sveven Dvorking** · 09-02-2001, 09:06 PM

I am only a kid now, but I hope to never have children. Too much responsibility. Too much trouble.

**Jowy Blight** · 09-02-2001, 10:19 PM

I think I turned out okay. Right? RIGGGGHHT???

As right as someone who lives in Jojoland.

But back on topic, I think it could be nice somewhere down the line. I'd be in it more for the method of making the kids though.

**Govan** · 09-02-2001, 11:55 PM

File me under the column of "If I Meet the Right Person"...

**Trent Lane** · 09-03-2001, 12:29 AM

Originally posted by Govan
File me under the column of "If I Meet the Right Person"...

Very true. I'm very big on values since they've been driven into me for 19 years now, and I've only met several girls who seem to have the same values, and some with none at all. If I raise a kid, I want to do it right, not like these jerks I see who slap their kids around for no reason, set bad examples (stealing from my grocery store with a kid at each side of you

), and are just generally hateful to these kids who didn't do anything to deserve this negative attention. These kids are the ones who grow up having difficulty making it i the world, and I really feel for them. It's not fair to them. I'd never want to turn out that way. You have kids to love and nurture them, not to throw them around and tell them how rotten they are... Sorry, I got all preachy there

, bottom line, someday down the road I'd like to father a few children. I mean, hey, who else am I gonna give all my toys and comic books?

**DR. BELCH** · 09-03-2001, 06:38 AM

...so far I have a niece, and that's like being the vice-president n a way: one heartbeat away from the big chair. Already I have figured out how to change a diaper, and when the kid cries, guess who they hand her off to. [holds up big sign with flashing arrow pointing to head]
First I have to find the lucky lass. With my luck, though, she'll be (a) very small-hipped, and judging from my brother's kid big heads run in our genes or (b) a career girl who wants to wait to start a family.

**James** · 09-03-2001, 07:37 AM

I hate kids. However, I know that having your own is a very different experience to meeting other people's. I'm trying to bear that in mind.

While I'm not leaping at the prospect of having a child (although there is something horrible inside that has awakened this year that whispers 'hey, it ain't a bad I idea'...), I would feel I'd have failed in my existance if I never experienced having an offspring.

Afterall, religion and pop music aside, that is indeed what we are all here for is it not?

Not now, maybe later.... yes, body clock! You heard me! MUCH later!.....

"Who are you calling a psycho?!" - Kingpin

**TuffyCatt** · 09-03-2001, 07:44 AM

If I ever get married, I definitely want to have kids. Heck, I think when I was about 5 I started making a list of stuff that I needed to remember to do to make my kids happy once I was a parent, so I've had it planned for a while.

Anyway, my Mom has been such a great influence on my life and I really want to try to be like her and teach the stuff that she has taught me to my own child and watch them grow and make their way through life...