Alright, why must parents be so egotistic

[Brandon Pierce]

Seriously what is the deal that parents need to behave so arrogent and egoccentric to their kids. Why must they be hypocritical. Why must they tell lies to their kids and teens, but when their kids lie or put things off, parents act like it's a sin.

Why must parents embarass their children in front on their friends and laugh it up like it's some joke. But if YOU embarrass your parents in front of THEIR friends, they take away your privaleges, or punish you, etc.

Why can parents tease and taunt you, but if YOU tease and taunt them, they'll call you a smart mouth and get pissed off, and complain about being a brat.

To all the people who post on these boards and is a parent. Please let me know why you all act this way. I must know the answer. It's really annoying me.

[Roman Legion]

Ouch. Generalize much? Unfortunately, yeah, I know what you mean. I know exactly what you mean, all too well. Still, they're not all that bad. People in general just happen to suck. Parents are people. Kids are people. If they're not screwed up one way, then they're screwed up in another way. That knowledge should be somewhat humbling, really.

--Romey

[Cyporiean]

Move out, then you won't have to deal with there issues.

[Storm Eagle]

Seriously what is the deal that parents need to behave so arrogent and egoccentric to their kids. Why must they be hypocritical. Why must they tell lies to their kids and teens, but when their kids lie or put things off, parents act like it's a sin.

Why must parents embarass their children in front on their friends and laugh it up like it's some joke. But if YOU embarrass your parents in front of THEIR friends, they take away your privaleges, or punish you, etc.

Why can parents tease and taunt you, but if YOU tease and taunt them, they'll call you a smart mouth and get pissed off, and complain about being a brat.

To all the people who post on these boards and is a parent. Please let me know why you all act this way. I must know the answer. It's really annoying me.

I'm not a parent, and probably never will be, but I thought I'd share some of my insight.

These parents don't have to be parents to do the things that you say they do. It's just the simple fact that they're ADULTS. When I was a kid, a lot of adults seemed to like to flaunt their authority in my face. A few examples: "you're too young", "I'm an adult, and you're not". Some of them will even go a bit farther than they need to. They'll get all wise-ass and make all these remarks, knowing you can do nothing about it since they're the adult, and you're the kid. Then things like that gets kids wishing they were adults, and just can't wait to reach adulthood. That's why they try to act all grown-up themselves. Ironically enough, when they actually do reach adulthood, they find that it's not all that it's cracked up to be. So the adults that do all this taunting, it's probably all based on all the rage that they were forced to hold in as kids, and then they end up taking it all out on kids once they're adults. This is why I would tell any kid to just enjoy and savor their youth, and not to be in such a hurry to grow up. I've actually done so before.

[Antiyonder]

These parents don't have to be parents to do the things that you say they do. It's just the simple fact that they're ADULTS. When I was a kid, a lot of adults seemed to like to flaunt their authority in my face. A few examples: "you're too young", "I'm an adult, and you're not". Some of them will even go a bit farther than they need to. They'll get all wise-ass and make all these remarks, knowing you can do nothing about it since they're the adult, and you're the kid. Then things like that gets kids wishing they were adults, and just can't wait to reach adulthood. That's why they try to act all grown-up themselves. Ironically enough, when they actually do reach adulthood, they find that it's not all that it's cracked up to be. So the adults that do all this taunting, it's probably all based on all the rage that they were forced to hold in as kids, and then they end up taking it all out on kids once they're adults. This is why I would tell any kid to just enjoy and savor their youth, and not to be in such a hurry to grow up. I've actually done so before.

This is really why I think therapy should be a legal requirement before entering parenthood. The less idiotic parents, the less troubled youths. It's not an absolute solution, but not really a problem either. If it meant being a decent parent, I myself would submit to a session.

[Harvey Two Face]

Because:

A: They have been around longer (when generally talking to a child) meaning they think they have more experience.

B: Usually they are the soul breadwinners in the house paying for all the kids taxes and bills etc, it may vary from house to house.

C: Since they like made you, for lack of better words, they feel they have authority and superiority over their creation i.e children.

So yeah, parents can sometimes act like dictators but generally are only looking out for the wellfare of their children, I know this doesn't apply to everyone to whom I give my condolences but I'm only stating the stereotypes. (editing to this is appreciated).

[tb4000]

When you have kids, you'll understand. Kids can be the most unappreciative little bastards in existence.

[Kurokawa41]

My father used to be pretty bad but luckily he's willing to go to therapy and anger management.

[Brandon Pierce]

When you have kids, you'll understand. Kids can be the most unappreciative little bastards in existence.

True true.

The main reason I bring this up is because I myself have a bit of an up/down relationship with my dad who has a bit of an ego. He always claims I never do enough for him. I iron his work clothes, I clean the house when he's at work, a few months ago I've helped pay bills with some of my checks, etc. Yet he still calls me lazy.

A few of my friends have experienced the same thing. This is why I brought it up. I figured it was a universal thing.

[Weatherman]

For your dad in particular it sounds like he has self-esteem issues that he needs to sort out with some therapy.

On a more general level, adults can talk like that to each other because they have essentially earned that right to do so. A large part of growing up and maturing is living through the process and that does give some what of a right to talk to your peers in a friend group in ways that you wouldn't talk to other people. Kids generally haven't earned that right yet to do that to an adult.

And there is something to the one who brings in the bacon gets to make the rules. The rules have to at least be resonably fair if not balanced, but the adult gets to make them because the adult has to take responsibility for the kid when something goes wrong.

[Antiyonder]

On a more general level, adults can talk like that to each other because they have essentially earned that right to do so. A large part of growing up and maturing is living through the process and that does give some what of a right to talk to your peers in a friend group in ways that you wouldn't talk to other people. Kids generally haven't earned that right yet to do that to an adult.

And there is something to the one who brings in the bacon gets to make the rules. The rules have to at least be resonably fair if not balanced, but the adult gets to make them because the adult has to take responsibility for the kid when something goes wrong.

And it seems that's the probably with the majority of parents (some, not all) today, no balance. Those parents either let the kid do whatever or treat them like crap.

[Weatherman]

And it seems that's the probably with the majority of parents (some, not all) today, no balance. Those parents either let the kid do whatever or treat them like crap.

Ehh, you just don't hear about the good ones because it's not news.

[Shawn Hopkins]

Cause they brought you into this world and they can take you out.

Now you all kids all across the land,
take it from me, parents just don't understand
Dow-doop-do-do-do-do

Seriously, until you prove you're an adult they are still going to think of you as a child, and you will never be on an even keel with them so they feel the arrogance is justified. If your parents are reasonable, then when you find things that make you happy and things you are good at, move out of the house and start supporting yourself, you may find yourself on a slightly more even relationship with them. But then again maybe you won't. That's the fun of screwed up family relationships. You can't really pick your family members, so you'll just have to do what most people do and suffer until one of you dies.

[Roman Legion]

A little exchange earlier today between my dad and brother went like so, "I don't care if you were taking a math test today, why weren't you out practicing driving?!" Then I had to sneak out before he turned on me to ask why I didn't make him go out driving instead of letting him take a math test... at least it was a relatively tame confrontation.

It's nothing to do with being a parent and everything to do with what kind of person you are...

When you have kids, you'll understand. Kids can be the most unappreciative little bastards in existence.

True, but not necessarily relevant. I was always the model child, and that never earned me anything, no matter how much my friends' parents remarked upon that fact.

Seriously, until you prove you're an adult they are still going to think of you as a child...

Or, as you already admit, maybe not. Some parents just aren't reasonable, and they'll treat you no differently for the rest of your life.

--Romey

[Kurokawa41]

Cause they brought you into this world and they can take you out.

You know I hear that saying a lot but that would be considered murder and I believe it would result in a death sentence?

[Hanshotfirst113]

When you have kids, you'll understand. Kids can be the most unappreciative little bastards in existence.

Ouch.

[Dr.Pepper]

Parents have authority over you. That's it

[Frozen]

C'mon, not all parents are nazis, and not all kids are little swines--there's some gross generalisation going on in this thread.

What is true is thatpeople are PEOPLE. Each is as different as the next. Being a parent is like any other stressful situation--it brings about extremes in personality. Plus, in the final analysis, some people are just lousy parents. I say that as a lousy father.

[Storm Eagle]

When you have kids, you'll understand. Kids can be the most unappreciative little bastards in existence.

*almost wants to tell you not to ever have kids*

A little exchange earlier today between my dad and brother went like so, "I don't care if you were taking a math test today, why weren't you out practicing driving?!"

Wowsers. That's weird. One day I was taking a mid-term for a class in senior year of high school, and would also be taking my drivers ed final later on. My mother wanted me to pay more attention to my mid-term than the drivers ed test.

[Novapocalypse]

Parents have to disipline kids to make them better people when their older.Wether it spanking them,and talking.

I would know,im only 13.