Almost Grown up

[SS5goku]

Hey guys, for most of you who don't know me? My old s/n was SS4goku. Well guy's my main reason for this thread is that my birthday was last week on the fifth, I'm 17 years old, so that means I have one more year left before I'm out on my own. At first when I was much younger I always thought it would be cool when I'm able to move out of my mothers house and live on my own, do what I want to do, and no one telling me right from wrong. Well that's how I use to feel, but now I'm feeling nervous, nervous about the fact that I'm about to be on my own, and the mistake I know I'm going to make. I
was wondering how it is out their. Were you guys as nervous as I am? I mean it feels like it was just last year when I turn 13 years old, being happy that I'm a teenager, but now those days are about to end. So guys please discuss the way you guys felt when you'll was about to leave home to colleage, and enter into the real life. I come to you'll because I think of everyone in Toon Zone Forum as friends.

[Temple Fugate]

Hey guys, for most of you who don't know me? My old s/n was SS4goku. Well guy's my main reason for this thread is that my birthday was last week on the fifth, I'm 17 years old, so that means I have one more year left before I'm out on my own. At first when I was much younger I always thought it would be cool when I'm able to move out of my mothers house and live on my own, do what I want to do, and no one telling me right from wrong. Well that's how I use to feel, but now I'm feeling nervous, nervous about the fact that I'm about to be on my own, and the mistake I know I'm going to make. I
was wondering how it is out their. Were you guys as nervous as I am? I mean it feels like it was just last year when I turn 13 years old, being happy that I'm a teenager, but now those days are about to end. So guys please discuss the way you guys felt when you'll was about to leave home to colleage, and enter into the real life. I come to you'll because I think of everyone in Toon Zone Forum as friends.

It's perfectly normal to be afraid of the Big Unknown Frontier known as life after graduation. Heck, I'm 23 and I'm still worried about my future. Lots of people are.

First off, stop worrying about making mistakes. There will be plenty of other things to worry about. Mistakes are going to happen, whether you're worrying about them or not, so what's more important is recovering from them quickly and learning not to make that particular mistake again.

I was nervous for almost my entire senior year, but toward May and June I started looking forward to college. I started to look forward to getting away from my family for long periods of time. (my brother, at the time, was a huge annoyance ) And fortunately I adjusted to my new life rather quickly.

And you don't really have to think about it as living "alone," because more than likely you're going to have roommates/hall-mates/apartment-mates and you'll meet people who have the same interests as you. Might take a while (It did for me), but you'll find the things you're worrying about now aren't so bad.

That's not to say there's not a lot of stress involved. Feeding yourself, keeping yourself motivated, doing all those papers and projects, paying your own way, etc. But you'd be surprised how easy it all becomes after a while.

Good luck!

[.Automatisch]

I was glad to leave home, and still am. I actually get irked when my family vists me, but I realize that they miss me a lot more than I miss living at home with/near them... But it's going to be different for some people. Just remember that you can always call your parents, family and friends if you need to talk, and that it might be REALLY hard adjusting at first. I personally never had any homesickness issues, but most of my friends had a period of being sad about living so far away. Just always remember that most Freshman are going through the same worries as you, and it's just a part of growing up.

[purplehairedwonder]

Before my parents left from dropping me off at school last semester (my first at college) I was having a really hard time thinking about them leaving. Then, after they did, it suddenly wasn't so bad. I didn't make any close friends at that school, but I had friends and a good roommate. I needed to budget my money better, but overall was a good experience. You really learn a lot about yourself when you're mostly on your own.

This semester I changed schools and only my mother came down and it barely phased me that I won't be seeing her for months. It's all about adjustment. Don't worry, everyone is going through a similar situation. Just do what you can to make the best of it. College is, truly, much better than high school.

[Michael24]

College is, truly, much better than high school.

Well, maybe for some. I personally found college nowhere near as good as high school. I had a great time in high school, and sure there were some good times in college, but after about the first year, there were several times where I felt terrible and just wanted to drop out so badly. I literally had to force myself to keep going and graduate. It probably would have been even worse if I'd been living on my own, but I lived at home (and still do) since the college wasn't far.

[PC!]

And just because you're going to college soon doesn't always mean you have to move out. Statistics show that more and more college kids are living at home instead of going out on their own. I'm a college student still happily living at home, myself.

Of course, it all depends on whether your college is nearby or not.

[purplehairedwonder]

Well, maybe for some. I personally found college nowhere near as good as high school. I had a great time in high school, and sure there were some good times in college, but after about the first year, there were several times where I felt terrible and just wanted to drop out so badly. I literally had to force myself to keep going and graduate. It probably would have been even worse if I'd been living on my own, but I lived at home (and still do) since the college wasn't far.

Sounds like you didn't pick the right school. Going to the right school makes all the difference.

[.Automatisch]

Before my parents left from dropping me off at school last semester (my first at college) I was having a really hard time thinking about them leaving. Then, after they did, it suddenly wasn't so bad. I didn't make any close friends at that school, but I had friends and a good roommate. I needed to budget my money better, but overall was a good experience. You really learn a lot about yourself when you're mostly on your own.

This semester I changed schools and only my mother came down and it barely phased me that I won't be seeing her for months. It's all about adjustment. Don't worry, everyone is going through a similar situation. Just do what you can to make the best of it. College is, truly, much better than high school.

Good luck with transferring... I unfortunately had many good friends at my old school, but so far at my new school I am not as lucky with making new ones.

[Michael24]

Sounds like you didn't pick the right school. Going to the right school makes all the difference.

Well, it wasn't so much that it was a bad school (it was actually very good), it was just that things occasionally got very frustrating for me and I wanted to just quit. Of course, once I graduated and got my degree, I was glad I had decided to stick with it, but looking back on both, I just enjoyed high school much more than college.

[Dr.Pepper]

I am also seventeen. When I go to college I will probably go to one nearby so I can live at home verses slaving away at a fast food joint to one in the morning so I can afford an apartment.

[purplehairedwonder]

I am also seventeen. When I go to college I will probably go to one nearby so I can live at home verses slaving away at a fast food joint to one in the morning so I can afford an apartment.

I worked at Wendy's over the summer and we closed at 1 a.m. and closing was definitely not fun But money is good.

But you can live in the dorms at school, as a freshman at least; in fact, I recommend it. You get a better college experience. One of my best friends is going to the hometown college and living in her house and says she hasn't made any new friends (half our senior class always goes to the college) because she hasn't really changed habits. If she were living in the dorms, she'd probably be meeting a lot more people.

But it is expensive. I'm splitting costs with my parents.

[Zach Logan]

I felt the same way before I left tomorrow. We all have a fear of the unknown, but college and the independence it gives is great. College is an experience everyone needs, and that most enjoy. It's just another step through life, and when you look back at high school you probably will be glad its over.

[SS5goku]

Thanks guys, for all the advise you'll are giveing to me.

[Shawn Hopkins]

From my experience, I really didn't start enjoying college until I stopped worrying about being homesick, stopped trying to go home every weekend and just lived in the moment and allowed myself to be focused on there (at college), not trying to mentally be somewhere else. Then it became a great experience.

[Frank Castle]

Well I just started college in August and things have been going very smoothly. What really worked for me was planning out my finances and classes and then leaving everything to making it up as I go.