Do you plan to have kids?

[NewMaxFranklin]

I 've discussed this with my sister a few times. I'm sure many of you haven't given this any thought. That's fine. I actually think it's pretty weird that I've thought about it at my age, in my dateless state.

Personally, I believe that many people have children for the wrong reasons. IMO, the only valid reason for having a child/childern is because you believe you can raise a child who can impact the world in a positive way. But, even then, adoption or mentoring is an alternative.

In todays society a lot of people are having kids for the wrong reasons. There are the obvious cases; like welfare familys with tons of children, leaching of the working people. But, equally damaging are the average couples who have kids for selfish reasons; lonelyness, immortalization, fitting in with friends/ family, etc.

Weather or not I have children will probably depend on my future wife. But, I really don't want more than one, two tops. I could do without any. Well, that's what I think now anyway.

[optimal321]

Well, kids for me too, is like, ten million steps ahead of me. But someday, i really do want to have kids. To have my own blood that i can raise as my own, and teach to be the best person this world could ever know would be great.

I'll probably want two kids. I really don't want a middle child, having been one myself. Now, my parents really did a great job, but i'm still a little neglected because i'm in the middle. Not that i'd do anything different if i ended up w/ three kids.

Of course, i have to wait and see what happens. I'm still working on getting my first girlfriend. But it does sound nice.

*Post 500, btw!!! Go optimal!!!*

[I.R Joey]

No more then 1 actually.

[Calhoun07]

"Yes, for dessert!"-Hannibal Lecter

just kidding

Actually, I can't have kids, as I am a guy, but hopefully I will find a lady one day who will beable to bear them for me.

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

I'm a romantic. I want to fall in love with a nice dame and raise a family. Even though I haven't experienced it yet, I have to believe that raising a child (or children) and seeing him or her grow up MUST be one of the most rewarding things in life. And I want to experience that.

[BourgeoisBuffoon]

I'd like to have a family and raise kids as well, but I doubt I'll raise them right-I'm terribly lazy and not too energetic. Besides, I figure I should enjoy single life...
....it's awful if someone raised kids just because they were lonely. I would raise kids only for love (assuming I go and raise some). Immortialization sounds even worse....makes it sound like the parent will try to get his/her kid to live up to many expectations they may not get to live up to...

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

My father is terribly lazy and not very energetic, and I think I turned out okay. Right? RIGGGGHHT???

[Bud 'n Lou]

Actually, I was thinking about this the other day. I'm actually kinda scared of the idea. I'd probably lose my mind and end up going all Joan Crawford and start beating them with wire hangers. My family is pretty messed up as it is. I definately would feel guilty about spreading those messed up genes, which would likely doom the child to a miserable life. If I were to agree to have a child (and I've already decided it would be best to only have ONE) I would insist that my partner be the donor. That way, I could blame him if it turns out messed up. :O)

[BourgeoisBuffoon]

(Sighs) Well, when I meant lazy, I doubt I'll have a good job...
....as for energetic, not nessacarily in the type as having enough to go out and one a marathon, but more along the lines of never doing anything... :o

....and I say you turned out all right, since you post very intullectual posts that leave me saying "ahhh...." or scratching my head.

I am afraid of being a deadbeat, that's all...

[Nightflower]

Never want kids. Not one. Ugh. So many reasons... I don't like kids, I don't see what's so cute about them. I have a low pain threshold (Or is it high?) and couldn't stand labor. I'd probably end up like my mom (Who is a world-class witch. Except with a B. She told me I couldn't date black guys because then my babies would be ugly! And that's when she's in a good mood). I'd either spoil my offspring or traumatize them. Plus I don't even know if I can take care of myself, let alone have another life in my hands.

My boyfriend said he wanted a child. (In the future! Yeesh) I find that guys seem to want kids more than girls, but that's just from my observations.

[NewMaxFranklin]

Originally posted by Nightflower
I find that guys seem to want kids more than girls, but that's just from my observations.

I thinks that's a fair observation. It probably has to do with human biology. Guys reach the peak of their sexual drive earlier in life than women. Women hit it in their thirties; Guys in their late teens. So when women are thirty something, if not yet married w/children, they start feeling the need. I guess that's the reference to the "biological clock," and all.

When guy's "settle down," it's due more to lack of energy than desire.

I believe most women develope "life goals" and work towards them from a young age, altering their goals as they go. Guys, on the other hand, have a list of things to do before they turn into their fathers. Then, when they're no longer young men, they appreciate the little things and become acclimated; they learn to go with the flow. Then the mid-life crissis kicks in. Which I believe to be unique to men. Mom hits her stide around the time Dad starts to revolt against becoming an old man.

-Just my take on it.- ;)

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

Originally posted by BourgeoisBuffoon
(Sighs) Well, when I meant lazy, I doubt I'll have a good job...
....as for energetic, not nessacarily in the type as having enough to go out and one a marathon, but more along the lines of never doing anything... :o

....and I say you turned out all right, since you post very intullectual posts that leave me saying "ahhh...." or scratching my head.


That's not intellectual; that's just me being weird and hippie-like. I was born in the wrong era. ;)

[Sveven Dvorking]

I am only a kid now, but I hope to never have children. Too much responsibility. Too much trouble.

[Jowy Blight]

I think I turned out okay. Right? RIGGGGHHT???

As right as someone who lives in Jojoland.:D But back on topic, I think it could be nice somewhere down the line. I'd be in it more for the method of making the kids though.:D

[Govan]

File me under the column of "If I Meet the Right Person"...

[Trent Lane]

Originally posted by Govan
File me under the column of "If I Meet the Right Person"...

Very true. I'm very big on values since they've been driven into me for 19 years now, and I've only met several girls who seem to have the same values, and some with none at all. If I raise a kid, I want to do it right, not like these jerks I see who slap their kids around for no reason, set bad examples (stealing from my grocery store with a kid at each side of you:mad: ), and are just generally hateful to these kids who didn't do anything to deserve this negative attention. These kids are the ones who grow up having difficulty making it i the world, and I really feel for them. It's not fair to them. I'd never want to turn out that way. You have kids to love and nurture them, not to throw them around and tell them how rotten they are... Sorry, I got all preachy there:o , bottom line, someday down the road I'd like to father a few children. I mean, hey, who else am I gonna give all my toys and comic books? :D

[DR. BELCH]

...so far I have a niece, and that's like being the vice-president n a way: one heartbeat away from the big chair. Already I have figured out how to change a diaper, and when the kid cries, guess who they hand her off to. [holds up big sign with flashing arrow pointing to head]
First I have to find the lucky lass. With my luck, though, she'll be (a) very small-hipped, and judging from my brother's kid big heads run in our genes or (b) a career girl who wants to wait to start a family.

[James]

I hate kids. However, I know that having your own is a very different experience to meeting other people's. I'm trying to bear that in mind.

While I'm not leaping at the prospect of having a child (although there is something horrible inside that has awakened this year that whispers 'hey, it ain't a bad I idea'...), I would feel I'd have failed in my existance if I never experienced having an offspring.

Afterall, religion and pop music aside, that is indeed what we are all here for is it not?

Not now, maybe later.... yes, body clock! You heard me! MUCH later!.....

"Who are you calling a psycho?!" - Kingpin

[TuffyCatt]

If I ever get married, I definitely want to have kids. Heck, I think when I was about 5 I started making a list of stuff that I needed to remember to do to make my kids happy once I was a parent, so I've had it planned for a while. :p Anyway, my Mom has been such a great influence on my life and I really want to try to be like her and teach the stuff that she has taught me to my own child and watch them grow and make their way through life...

[Nightflower]

Man.....I never realized how many people actually want the bloody wankers..

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

Hey, we were little pieces of crud once. Some of us still are.;)

[Psycho Fox]

Originally posted by Nightflower
Man.....I never realized how many people actually want the bloody wankers.. Well they are cute and a part of you.

[Betaman8]

believe me, i want to have children, but i cant-my reproductive organs are screwed up, so i guess adoption is my only choice.

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

Crap. That sucks.

[Trent Lane]

"Man.....I never realized how many people actually want the bloody wankers..."

I'll admit, they can be a handful at times, I know from going to my aunt's house and having them run around and climb all over you and everything else, but they're really pretty good once you get down to it. Like Larry said, we were all at that stage at some point in our life, so you can't be too harsh on them...

[Calhoun07]

Originally posted by Psycho Fox
Well they are cute and a part of you.

That's what scares me! Do I want a mini me running around???

[Sveven Dvorking]

Originally posted by DR. BELCHER

I know who you will find, Belcher. You will find **** ** *******! Admit that you love her, all you have to do is move!

Hint: That is someone on this board that Belcher is trying to hide emotions to.

-SDD:p

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

Yeah, she doesn't show up much anymore. Better get a move on!

[Kylewayne]

Of course I do want to have kids someday when I am a bit older, 2 or 3 is the max for me :) For now I am focusing on my career and education and if the right guy come along the way ...then yes after marriage I would like to start a family. Well not right away. I would let 2 or 3 years pass after me getting married to enjoy my married life with my hubby. After that I am ready for motherhood, I love kids and I know that motherhood will suit me. :) The only thing that scares me is giving birth...:eek: You guys have it easy!
Now, if men gave birth...nah!...you guys would probably faint just thinking about it! :D

[Betaman8]

I dont think adoption is very bad. I mean, first of all, they DO become yours quickly enough, second of all, if you get one young enough, they wont remember their original parents (thats both good and bad), and third of all, you help a kid who would have otherwise had a bad future, have a good one.

I'd be proud to adopt.

[Betaman8]

P.S., the fact that i wont have to give birth due to my previously mentioned birth defect is another plus for adoption.

[optimal321]

Originally posted by kylewayne
Of course I do want to have kids someday when I am a bit older, 2 or 3 is the max for me :) For now I am focusing on my career and education and if the right guy come along the way ...then yes after marriage I would like to start a family. Well not right away. I would let 2 or 3 years pass after me getting married to enjoy my married life with my hubby. After that I am ready for motherhood, I love kids and I know that motherhood will suit me. :) The only thing that scares me is giving birth...:eek: You guys have it easy!
Now, if men gave birth...nah!...you guys would probably faint just thinking about it! :D

Wow, Kylewayne, i too would like to spend some down time w/ my wife before i start a family. It just sounds nice :)

Oh, and you think we don't have it bad at births too?!?! We get the joy of watching the whole process:eek: . You don't actually have to watch what's happening down there. But, of course, i've never actually given birth, so i don't really know.

[The Mad Hatter]

I love children myself, but as a lot of you have said, I want to be able to raise them right and devote enough time to them. So, I'll wait till well after I'm married, and probably only have one or two... and I probably won't have any till I'm in my 30s.

That might not be good enough for my parents, though... they're both 60 and ready for grandchildren. And since I'm their only kid, I get a bit of pressure. My mom even told me once that she wouldn't mind if I get some random gal pregnant out of wedlock, just so long as she gets to play with the kid. Scary thing is, I think she was only half kidding. :eek:

[BourgeoisBuffoon]

Yeah, what is it with parents and grandkids? Do they spoil them to make the parent miserable in return for all the stress the kid gave them? That's always been my theory....I probably would be an even worse grandparent than parent and be the grumpy old man who scares off all the little kids on my street! :D (And that sounds like a fun role to play.... ;) )

Hatter, I feel for ya, man...that's scary if she wants grandkids that bad! :eek:

[DR. BELCH]

--I'll never experience childbirth, but someday I have a feeling I'll need either hernia operation or open-heart surgery. So rest assured I'll have my big ol' bloody cross to bear.

I suppose being an only child and having a parent with grandchild fever can be hell. Thankfully I've got two brothers and one has kindly taken some of the pressure off of me. Still, the scary thing is when the neighbors see me carrying/strolling Saliah down the street and think I'm her daddy. It's that family forehead that fools them.

:eek: Sveven has looked upon my naked psyche and called his friends! ;) I won't say whether or not his suspicions are right, but...there's always PM's and e-mail, you know...the modern incarnation of the 19th-century perfumed billet-deux. :rolleyes:

[Kylewayne]

lol...it's quit obvious who you like. I figured it out a while ago after reading some thread :D

[The Mad Hatter]

I think most of us guessed it months ago. Not too hard to figure out, actually... you can be pretty easy to read, Belch. :) I just hope we haven't embarassed the object of your affections to the point that she never posts again...

[Shriek]

I couldn't have a kid. IF he turned out like me, I would not be able to put up with my ****. I'd beat the crap out of him and sell him on the corner.

"Boy For Sale!"

[Vin]

I'd loved to have children after I'm married. I'm going to be 16 and I'm the oldest of six children. So, I have tons of experience. Being that my parents are seperated, (but working on getting back together) I feel as if I am my younger brothers' father. My youngest brother is 22 months and the other is 4 going on 5 at the end of February. I love them as if they were my own children and look forward to the day that I have children. Of course money is a big issue, so that's something I'd have to work at. Children are great and it's amazing to me to see them grow and learn. :sniff:

[Nightflower]

Six children? Your family's like the Von Traps! (That was a compliment)

Well, I never said we weren't kids once....I still am ^_^ Which is another reason why I wouldn't want one. I'm way too immature to be taking care of anyone.

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

Originally posted by optimal321


Wow, Kylewayne, i too would like to spend some down time w/ my wife before i start a family. It just sounds nice :)

Oh, and you think we don't have it bad at births too?!?! We get the joy of watching the whole process:eek: . You don't actually have to watch what's happening down there. But, of course, i've never actually given birth, so i don't really know.

Uh, if you're the husband, your job is to let your wife break a few bones in your hand as she squeezes the living daylights out of it during the process...

Wife: "Auggghh! I can't!"

Husband: "Augghhhh! Help me!!"

[RockItShipper]

It's a very vague concept, but I'm pretty sure that once I find someone and it's been a few anniversaries and such... But right now I can't picture it.

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

;)

[DR. BELCH]

http://www.ukobservers.net/cwm/otn/angry/nono.gif

[Calhoun07]

:rolleyes:

[The Mad Hatter]

:p

[Singin' Stray Cat]

:confused:



Well...anyway...back to the original question...

I'd like to have one or two children someday - but first I'd like to take care of some other things, like finishing college and getting married. And who knows when either of those things will happen... :rolleyes: