Should I listen to my parents? [Archive]

Batman347

07-01-2002, 09:46 PM

They don't want me talking to strangers online, so basically, they don't want me on any forums or talk to anyone online that I don't know. Right now they don't know I'm going to Toonzone, and they wouldn't like it at all, I would probably get in to a lot of trouble, so I'm asking you what would you do if you were in my shoes. All oupion's needed!

Xevo

07-01-2002, 10:14 PM

If you're under 13, I would listen to them.

If you're between 13-17, they can say what they want, but no 13-17 year old listens to their parents, so whether they're right or not shouldn't matter to you anyway (they're mostly right, I could tell you stories of when I was 14 and a child molester on a bulletin board [this was before the WWW was big] hit on all the kids who came there). Anyway, do what they want, openly at least, but try to take some of their advice. Even if they're being overprotective, parents are rarely completely wrong.

Buck Tudrussel

07-01-2002, 10:15 PM

I cannot answer that.You do what you feel you should do.What you feel is right.

Evil Dr. Reef

07-01-2002, 10:29 PM

Stay with us, Batman347. It's ever so pleasant here. Nobody is all that weird either. Except for me.

Thundercleese

07-01-2002, 10:58 PM

Well, forums have moderators and admins. They can keep an eye out for any people who aren't here for animation discussions. Chat rooms, however, have no moderators or anyone keeping an eye out for the sick people out there. So, if they tell you to stay outta chat rooms, that's understandable. Obey them. But forums like this are pretty safe, you should let them look arounds and they'll see that. The boards are fairly clean, and how bad can talking about cartoons be? You should stay with the forums. Besides, who'll do the Cartooncartoon trivia?

Chris Sanders MSX

07-01-2002, 11:52 PM

Your parents are doing the right thing technically but they are taking it to an extreme. What they should be telling you is to not meet anyone that you meet online, offline.

They can't control what you do unless they hover around you everytime your online. And seeing as how they can't I suggest you talk to them about trusting your judgement.

Explain to them that they raised an intelligent person who knows right from wrong, and has the common sense to keep himself out of trouble, especially on the internet. And that theys hould give you a little credit, then let them check out Toon Zone and they'll see that everythings fine.

BLACKHEART

07-02-2002, 12:20 AM

I'm the person your mother warned you about

Twice on Sunday

RogueMartian

07-02-2002, 01:13 AM

As long as you are over 13, I say that you should talk to your parents. Explain that the internet can be dangerous, but so can the world. Its not a bad thing for you to go online and simply talk about cartoons or politics and such. Explain to them that you are intelligent and that you wouldn't do anything stupid like meet someone or give away your address or other dangerous information.

If you are under 18 and they are adamant about it (they are probably a little protective) then you should probably massage their ego, and stay off message boards. Although, you may want to encourage them to see what it is about message boards that you like. Intelligent posters and reading about cartoon and regular news on toonzone isn't dangerous. Who knows, maybe your mom or dad may decide they want to post here.

Bob...SpongeBob

07-02-2002, 10:41 AM

Originally posted by Thundercleese Well, forums have moderators and admins. They can keep an eye out for any people who aren't here for animation discussions. Chat rooms, however, have no moderators or anyone keeping an eye out for the sick people out there. So, if they tell you to stay outta chat rooms, that's understandable. Obey them. But forums like this are pretty safe, you should let them look arounds and they'll see that. The boards are fairly clean, and how bad can talking about cartoons be? You should stay with the forums. Besides, who'll do the Cartooncartoon trivia?

Took the words right out of my mouth. :)

auto

07-02-2002, 11:33 AM

I think they're worrying because of the media image of the internet. On the news there is always some 13 year-old girl raped because she gave out personal information that someone can easily locate you with (School attending to, Address, City and State*, Gendor*, Last name, Phone#, etc.).

Basically make your parents trust you. All you really need is common sense. If you are on sites like eBay read all the reviews in the feedback profile and read all the text in the description. And most of the people who are attacked give out too much personal information to other people.

*city and state only applies with the other information
*if they know all the other information your gendor may attract sexual predators

DR. BELCH

07-02-2002, 11:44 AM

Ironically you'd probably be safer making friends and even dating online than hanging out in scuzzy poolrooms and bars. Besides, your folks aren't planning to raise a sheltered hermit, are they? You need to meet people somehow....

Barb Gordon

07-02-2002, 11:55 AM

I would definetly recommend talking with you parents, and maybe even have them watch you while you're online. I know my mom was a little freaked when I was younger and talking with people whom I'd never met in my life. But a couple times she just watched my conversations and what I was actually doing, and,lol, althought she found it over her head and very odd at times, she saw it just random'ness to the extreme. Now she's like, "oh, tell your friends I said hi!", or she'll catch a glimpse of what we're talking about, see that it makes no sense and say, "you guys are so weird!". It's good to have parents that worry about this kind of thing, I would be worried if they weren't. But still doing this behind their backs is not only a bad thing, but will show your parents that you lack the responsibility to stay talking with people online. You'll win points with yourself, not to mention you parents, if you confront them on this issue....provided that you are at least 14 years old and over.

~Barb

BLACKHEART

07-02-2002, 01:13 PM

**TAKES OFFENSE THAT NO ONE IS CREEPED OUT BY ME TODAY. CLUTCHES FIST LIKE COBRA COMMANDER**

Sure everyone show the bright side of the internet but there's a dark seedy underworld surrounding us all. I'm sure you've been to The Official DC Comics Message board :)

James Harvey

07-02-2002, 02:33 PM

Originally posted by SLIPKNOT
Sure everyone show the bright side of the internet but there's a dark seedy underworld surrounding us all. I'm sure you've been to The Official DC Comics Message board :)

Those boards aren't as hideous as the official WB Boards, which have dissolved into apile of goo. But I'd say talk to your parents aboyut the internet. Dispell some rumors. Tell them you're using caution.

Xevo

07-02-2002, 03:34 PM

Originally posted by DR. BELCH
Ironically you'd probably be safer making friends and even dating online than hanging out in scuzzy poolrooms and bars. Besides, your folks aren't planning to raise a sheltered hermit, are they? You need to meet people somehow....

Heh if the only people you meet are people online, I think that just about qualifies you for the "sheltered hermit" moniker =P I mean, I talk to people online, obviously, but I know WAY more people that I've met in that mystical, magical place we call "The Real World," and amazingly enough I've not met one in a bar or similar "scuzzy" place.

Sandro

07-02-2002, 04:08 PM

Just tell your parents that they are being paranoid and overly-protective. Sure, there's bad people online but there's bad people in the world too. Mention the good people here for instance.

James

07-02-2002, 05:48 PM

I certainly would talk to your parents. I think open dialogue would benefit your future relationship with them. Perhaps mention this place as a possible place to visit, excluding other sites.

It is moderated, and we do our best to make this a family enviroment for everyone.

I'm not a fan of doing things behind peoples back unless you are very good at it. This isn't a moral issue in my eyes (I like to live life on practicality rather than the ethical), just I could see more trouble if you do continue in secret.

If they feel that they can't trust the Internet to ensnare their child because they can't supervise or control who you talk to, how are they going to feel when they find you have been in contact with people like Slipknot ;) behind their backs...?

It might in some weird way, even confirm their paranoia about the internet.

I hope Slipknot feels the contempt he desired from this post :D

Good luck on whatever path you choose.

BLACKHEART

07-02-2002, 06:14 PM

**RAISES EYEBROWS IN VILLIAINOUS MANOR AND ESCAPES INTO THE SHADOWS** :mad:

czyznyck99

07-02-2002, 07:44 PM

What?! You are deserting me!

I am Apocaylpse! Your parents think I am ruining your life?

Ruined, no!

I will make a slave of you, yes. But a slave of courage and fire.

There exists no freedom from me! There is only freedom through me!!!

"Submit, cleave unto me, and know the joy of eternal darkness!!"

(Now that Apocalypse has told you how he feels, I think you should talk to your parents...and the X-men :D . )

Later.

Galaxia

07-02-2002, 08:31 PM

Geez louise! :o ><

I think Thundercleese and Sheepfan pretty much summed it up for me. Just be very carfeful, mmkay?

ninjagirl

07-02-2002, 08:44 PM

i agree with all the folks who say talk to your parents.
IMHO: it wouldn't be worth losing their trust over posting behind their backs.
i'd try telling them there is a particular board (toonzone) you want to post at and ask them to check it out.
promise not to give out your address or personal info etc.
if you are a believer, you could try praying before hand. it always helps me :D
as hard as it is to believe your parents have your best interests in mind and have no interest in making you miserable.
(they love you)
that's my two cents
good luck

Batman347

07-02-2002, 08:55 PM

A few people know why my parents have trouble beliveing that I won't get into any trouble, but I have chose, to barely post at all, until I'm older and I let this thing pass, that will be the better time. You guys and girls can keep giving me advice of what to say and everything, thanks a lot guys!

PennyCat

07-02-2002, 11:09 PM

That's being a little too overprotective, in my opinion. I think it's okay as long as you make the right decision if someone were to try to invite you to meet them somewhere. (Not on here, of course, but in other chat rooms and forums.) We're not all that bad. I would have never met Harley, Colin, Romey, Brian Cruz, or Sylvester (who's registered with TZ but hardly comes on here nowadays) if it weren't for the WBC and Toonzone. Plus, I met my boyfriend online, and now we've been together for 5 1/2 years. :)

The Game

07-03-2002, 01:58 PM

I say just tell your parents about this site, and ask them to check it out. I think it's fair to say that we aren't a bunch of child molesters who you'll be talking too.

Heck, alot of us are probably about your age.

-The Game

BLACKHEART

07-03-2002, 02:02 PM

Just do what you want to do

Pilmedium

07-03-2002, 03:48 PM

If your parents don't want you coming to a place like this, they seem to be abusing their power. Power abusers should never win.
That's just my opinion on the subject, please don't take it personally, anyone.

PennyCat

07-03-2002, 11:09 PM

Originally posted by Pilmedium
If your parents don't want you coming to a place like this, they seem to be abusing their power. Power abusers should never win.
That's just my opinion on the subject, please don't take it personally, anyone.

I agree, actually. :)

Gyro

07-04-2002, 02:05 AM

I think you should talk to them like everyone else said. However, if they are anything like my parents, you'll have a hard time bargaining with them. According to them, they're never wrong. :rolleyes: You should probably let them look around this place to show them how friendly everyone is. :)

If your parents don't want you coming to a place like this, they seem to be abusing their power. They aren't abusing their power. I think they have the right to restrict their kids from doing something they don't think is right. At least that's what I think. But I think a lot of things, and it doesn't make them true. :D

gtracer72

07-04-2002, 03:11 PM

If your under 13, listen. It may not seem like it at some times, but parents (most of the time) know what is best. Otherwise, I hope that you are old enough to think for yourself and know right from wrong.