breakup

[sdp]

A 1 year relationship I had is ending and it hurts. Its not my first long term relationship but that doesn't make this any better. While there were things I knew were not working for me as we had different future plans I still cared for her which mattered more to me and I just feel rejected.

I know...: "time heals", "more fish in the water", "sorry to hear that", "her loss" etc, but those things don't really help.

I am unsure as to why I write this topic. As mopey as I am inside I rarely let others know. I especially don't do it online. Not only that as much as I love TZ from browsing the Cafe I just can't seem to relate/agree with anyone here besides Toons. I don't really "know" anyone here at all even though as of now its the only Message Board I visit frequently.

[Kurokawa41]

I don't really know what to tell you since I don't know the details.

[Eddie G.]

You're not going to get her back and there's nothing we can really tell you that'll make you feel better. If you need to get out some emotions then a journal is probably a better place than the internet.

Anyway find a hobby and wait for the next pretty girl to come along. She'll be around shortly.

[Novapocalypse]

Just forget it ever happened.Don't worry about it,mabye you'll find someone else,in the meantime just focus on doing something youve always wanted to do.Mabye jump off the highest platform into the creek,that always helps me when im down.

[Kury Wagner]

A 1 year relationship I had is ending and it hurts. Its not my first long term relationship but that doesn't make this any better. While there were things I knew were not working for me as we had different future plans I still cared for her which mattered more to me and I just feel rejected.A year... ouch. I'm sorry to hear that. It's never easy to end a relationship, even if it's one that you're not completely happy with or you know isn't going well. Especially if it's a long relationship, like yours. A year is a considerable chunk of time to spend with someone. You have every right to feel upset, disoriented, and confused.


I know...: "time heals", "more fish in the water", "sorry to hear that", "her loss" etc, but those things don't really help.They don't, you're right. And I'm not going to feed you any of that. I know it hurts, I know you want an answer, but I can't give that. There are relationships I was in years back that I am still upset over the break-up. I don't believe that you ever fully get over someone that you had such a bond with. At least, I don't.

What I can tell you that you shouldn't focus on her, or on what you could've changed. Don't focus on the past. Try your damnedest to find something else to divert your attention so that you can heal a little bit and move on a little. It's easier said than done, yes. But you have to do something. Just please take care. /hugs.

[Zeonic Freak]

As for "time heals", you never really fully recover from something emotional, but over time the pain usually subsides and it doesnt hurt as much as it did, and that kinda due to the fact that people change over time as well.

My last ex and i really didnt have an official "break up", and it was about a year after we stoped talking was kinda the "official end", but looking back i should have took it much nicer about it and what not. Still wonder whats shes up too after these past few years, but i went for a piss poor attitude twards her to "i hope shes doing alright" attitude because ive changed my attiude since then about her.

We all move on, wither its at a fast pace or slow one, but it human nature to move on with life and not wonder about the past so much...