Who here lives by themselves?

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

Being married doesn't count. Basically, just single and/or dating but still living alone.


I'm finally moving out of the ol' parents' house for good. It took a while to get a decent paying job and some extra money to pay for it, but there it is.

Question is, what do you guys do to keep yourselves occupied? I don't know anyone in the city I'm moving to, and frankly, I'm not someone who really is interested in the nightlife either. The good thing is I'm doing this to get closer to my school so I can finally finish my original degree that I kind of abandoned for the last 2-3 years. So there will be plenty of students for me to mingle with. Of course, my first stint in University was kind of blah socially and actively, but I'm determined to get more involved in school matters in this final stint. Problem is, I don't know what's interesting enough to get involved in...

[Storm Eagle]

I am. I moved to my own apartment in early February this year. I can barely support myself, but I'm doing it anyway.

As for what I do to keep myself occupied, I just do what I've always done even when I did live with my mother. I surf the internet, play video games, and read. I guess I'm not so big on nightlife either, since I have no desire to set even so much as a toe past the threshhold of the door of any clubs. I might be interested in doing pretty much anything at night outside of home besides that. However, I also go to movies with friends if there's anything good playing. I'd also like to adopt a cat, and when I do, I'll be devoting quite a lot of time to it as well. I'm also not dating either.

I hope I answered your question right.

[Classic Speedy]

For now. Come December I may decide to move in with a friend from my college days but nothing's final either way yet.

Being my own boss is awesome, but if I could only pay half the rent instead of all of it, that'd be nice.

[RD!]

I'm going to move into my place within the month. I'm worried about getting really bored (I don't know a whole lot of people in the area--though I've been here for 2 years already =[.)

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

My few past tastes of living alone, outside of my parents' house, have yielded some amount of boredom, so that's why I asked. I'm not even a really social person by nature, but you don't realize how boring it can get until you don't even have a sibling around to talk to, or have someone to be there to throw stuff off of when watching TV.

In a way I'm really excited to be finally free of the family obligations and shackles, and another part of it is the enjoyment of trying out things alone even if I have no idea what I'm doing at times, but I have never been a big risk taker so I could easily see myself doing nothing and being a hermit, and I definitely don't want that. I have enough vices already.

[mookie75]

There are days when I wish I was living by myself, but my younger brother and I have been in a roommate situation for several years now. It just makes too much financial sense to end it without a good reason. Sure, we probably each make enough income to live on our own at this point, but it would likely be a noticeable drop in our standard of living.

I keep waiting for him to get married or something and force an end to the arrangement. If we count on ME to make that happen we'll probably still be roommates when we in our 70s. :p

[Master Moron]

Being married doesn't count. Basically, just single and/or dating but still living alone.


I'm finally moving out of the ol' parents' house for good. It took a while to get a decent paying job and some extra money to pay for it, but there it is.

Question is, what do you guys do to keep yourselves occupied? I don't know anyone in the city I'm moving to, and frankly, I'm not someone who really is interested in the nightlife either. The good thing is I'm doing this to get closer to my school so I can finally finish my original degree that I kind of abandoned for the last 2-3 years. So there will be plenty of students for me to mingle with. Of course, my first stint in University was kind of blah socially and actively, but I'm determined to get more involved in school matters in this final stint. Problem is, I don't know what's interesting enough to get involved in...

One of the best ways to keep yourself occupied is to hit the gym. Since you're going to school there's a good chance that they have a free or discounted gym on campus. And since you don't go out drinking very often you should be able to improve both your physique and your health considerably.

[Weatherman]

I've been on my own completely for about a year and "on my own" for almost 3. I'd personally recomend finding some clubs that are into your interests. I've made alot of friend at my alma matter's gaming club, it helps that I live right up the street still, and at stuff like that. If yo uliek sports get inbto the local sports scene. Alot of teams make it fairly cheap to get in the door as a fan if yo ufind the deals they do. Otherwise, work the internet to your advantage and try to stay in contact with anyone you meet in the area.

[sun]

Being married doesn't count. Basically, just single and/or dating but still living alone.


I'm finally moving out of the ol' parents' house for good. It took a while to get a decent paying job and some extra money to pay for it, but there it is.

Question is, what do you guys do to keep yourselves occupied? I don't know anyone in the city I'm moving to, and frankly, I'm not someone who really is interested in the nightlife either. The good thing is I'm doing this to get closer to my school so I can finally finish my original degree that I kind of abandoned for the last 2-3 years. So there will be plenty of students for me to mingle with. Of course, my first stint in University was kind of blah socially and actively, but I'm determined to get more involved in school matters in this final stint. Problem is, I don't know what's interesting enough to get involved in...
...Ok you are talking to an "expert" at living "alone"......What do you mean by "occupied"?????
...You can become a work addict....and work extra hours? and be occupied.
...Or you can do the "bar" scene, and that can lead to " problems"
...So you have to ask yourself...What do want, and perhaps "enjoy"
Like working out???Great idea about joining a gym or health facility...
You will feel better, and meet people at the same time.

Perhaps you have some hobby that you have always wanted to pursue..
Even mid sized cities have special interest groups of all kinds...
From Animal Care to Film or Animation Classes and Clubs, Bicylcing Clubs,........to Insect Clubs, Acting clubs which put on ametuer plays., to Bowling, to model railroading to anything...Meet some great people in those kinds of settings...Very natural and already people who share the same intersts as you..
...Now you say you will be going to school? Great..what is a better place to meet people than in class...You will know those people that share your attitudes and likes and dislikes, right there in class..

If you look for it in the right places, life will offer you what you really enjoy.
You can have fun, and go to school at the same time you move up the job ladder............................Good Luck..........................Stuart

[mikestorm]

When I was 26 I left my hometown of Waltham Mass. (where all of my friends and family were located) and moved to East Norriton Pennsylvania where I didn't know a soul.

Once you get out of college, it truly does get exponentially harder to make new friends, and harder still when you relocate 350 miles away.

Here's my advice to you:

1) Create a myspace profile - social networking is very powerful
2) If you're still in school, migrate a bit farther outside of your comfort zone and actually strike up conversations with people
3) Try craigslist strictly platonic (never tried but throught about it)
4) Join a gym (Master Moron's idea - a good one). The same people tend to work out around the same times, so it becomes easier to talk to someone after each iteration of seeing them.
5) If you're religious try joining a bible study
6) If you're of drinking age you could try the local watering hole. Alcohol is a social lubricant. Your best time to go would be when a game is on. People will talk to anyone who listens to them when they have theories about stats, players, teams, plays etc.
7) Online dating. Any date that doesn't work out romantically is a great canditate for a friend.

[Terminatah]

For my first two years of college, I lived in a three-bedroom suite, but kept to my room the entire time, so I may as well have lived alone. I passed the time by writing, surfing the internet, watching TV, and seeing a movie every weekend (I took the bus because I had no car). This was also the year I joined Toon Zone, which represented a good portion of how I spent my time. So just join Toon Zone and you're all set.

-Terminatah

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

This was also the year I joined Toon Zone, which represented a good portion of how I spent my time. So just join Toon Zone and you're all set.

-Terminatah

Well, since I've been here since 2001, I've got that out of the way.



) Join a gym (Master Moron's idea - a good one). The same people tend to work out around the same times, so it becomes easier to talk to someone after each iteration of seeing them.




I might do that. I'm a pretty poor athlete, though, and I'm pretty skinny. I guess all the more reason to work out, though I cannot see me putting much muscle on this build since I have a pretty small appetite, so beef does not come easily.



Perhaps you have some hobby that you have always wanted to pursue..
Even mid sized cities have special interest groups of all kinds...
From Animal Care to Film or Animation Classes and Clubs, Bicylcing Clubs,........to Insect Clubs, Acting clubs which put on ametuer plays., to Bowling, to model railroading to anything...Meet some great people in those kinds of settings...Very natural and already people who share the same intersts as you..
...Now you say you will be going to school? Great..what is a better place to meet people than in class...You will know those people that share your attitudes and likes and dislikes, right there in class..




The problem is that a lot of extracurricular activities in the city cost money. I'm not sure I want to or can afford to shell out $100 for a few weeks of activities.

As for classes in school, I'm not holding my breath on building many relationships there. The last time I was in University, we simply didn't have enough time to get to know each other, and I don't want to force something during the middle of a lecture.

I might join a club, although I cannot imagine what club I should join without looking like I'm taking wild stabs in the dark. I'm not much of an expert in niche hobbies, and the stuff I am an expert at, don't have clubs for them.

I've been interested in some things outside of my major, but I don't know if I qualify for them--some clubs are exclusively for students of a specific faculty. I'd like to dabble a bit in some of the fine arts clubs, but I'm not a fine arts student. Has anyone here ever participated in something outside of your own faculty?

[Weatherman]

I might join a club, although I cannot imagine what club I should join without looking like I'm taking wild stabs in the dark. I'm not much of an expert in niche hobbies, and the stuff I am an expert at, don't have clubs for them.

I've been interested in some things outside of my major, but I don't know if I qualify for them--some clubs are exclusively for students of a specific faculty. I'd like to dabble a bit in some of the fine arts clubs, but I'm not a fine arts student. Has anyone here ever participated in something outside of your own faculty?

I've been a member of my alma matter's anime and gaming cluns for quite a while now. Social clubs liek that are a great way to meet people.....sometimes.:shrug:

[Master Moron]

I might do that. I'm a pretty poor athlete, though, and I'm pretty skinny. I guess all the more reason to work out, though I cannot see me putting much muscle on this build since I have a pretty small appetite, so beef does not come easily.


You should try whey protein. It's not too filling, and if you buy it in bulk it's not too expensive. I usually don't eat beef too often as it tends to have a lot of fat on it, but I suppose if you're already pretty skinny you wouldn't have to worry as much about the extra calories. Other good sources of protein are cottage cheese, tuna, and chicken. Some people like egg whites, but I would never waste a yolk like that.


I've been a member of my alma matter's anime and gaming cluns for quite a while now. Social clubs liek that are a great way to meet people.....sometimes.:shrug:

I wouldn't necessarily recommend an anime club. I've learned the hard way that just because a group has the same interests as you doesn't mean they're good people.

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

You should try whey protein. It's not too filling, and if you buy it in bulk it's not too expensive. I usually don't eat beef too often as it tends to have a lot of fat on it, but I suppose if you're already pretty skinny you wouldn't have to worry as much about the extra calories. Other good sources of protein are cottage cheese, tuna, and chicken. Some people like egg whites, but I would never waste a yolk like that.

I've heard that pro athletes eat a lot of pasta to beef up, too.

Cottage cheese is pretty heavy. I like it, but I usually hold off on heavy foods if it's a stressful day for me. I think my nerves tend to burn off a lot of fat. I already have a good diet of chicken and fish, although not necessarily tuna only.



I wouldn't necessarily recommend an anime club. I've learned the hard way that just because a group has the same interests as you doesn't mean they're good people.

The anime club in my school only runs anime showings about once or twice a month, and meeting dates are very sparse. It's got too irregular a schedule to get to know anyone anyway.

[Master Moron]

I've heard that pro athletes eat a lot of pasta to beef up, too.

I've never heard of that. Pastas pretty low on protein. It's mostly just empty calories. Whole wheat pasta is somewhat better than the regular pasta though. I think maybe you're thinking of runners eating pasta before a race because it gives them energy for the race. But, I've never heard it being used to beef up.


Cottage cheese is pretty heavy. I like it, but I usually hold off on heavy foods if it's a stressful day for me. I think my nerves tend to burn off a lot of fat. I already have a good diet of chicken and fish, although not necessarily tuna only.


Yeah, any fish is good. I just mentioned tuna cause it's so cheap and easy to prepare.

[Weatherman]

I wouldn't necessarily recommend an anime club. I've learned the hard way that just because a group has the same interests as you doesn't mean they're good people.

Oh trust me, I know that all to well. Some of the worst times in my life were as a result of a club I used to go to, but they can stil lbe good for metting peopel if you're careful and thigns don't get too cliquish.

[Andy Mancini]

If you're up for something a little "unorthodox," do what I do: find a upper-scale grocery store (a real supermaket, not a Super Wal-Mart or a Meijers) and walk around in it. Not only is a great way to meditate, it also helps the person get aquainted the new area. I usually do it anywhere between 7:30 and 11 at night, but that's up to one's personal tastes.