Need some advice..

[brianycpht]

What should I do if a good friend of mine starts acting differently towards me when we got along pretty good before? The person has stopped taking my phone calls and my IMs and avoids me when I see them. Should I confront or just let it go?

[solarflere]

What should I do if a good friend of mine starts acting differently towards me when we got along pretty good before? The person has stopped taking my phone calls and my IMs and avoids me when I see them. Should I confront or just let it go?Is your friend Male or Female?

[Weatherman]

What should I do if a good friend of mine starts acting differently towards me when we got along pretty good before? The person has stopped taking my phone calls and my IMs and avoids me when I see them. Should I confront or just let it go?

If you can get them to stop, yeah, find some way to call them on how lamely they've been treating you. That's not right. At the very least, they do owe you an explination for what's going on. Friendship is worth at least that much.

[Kagetsu]

\\\ WARNING - PESSIMISSIM ///

I've had a friend do that very same thing. Let it go. you're better off not learning the details as I did. It most likely will hurt. If it were a simple misunderstanding that could be corrected by talking, a "friend" would have brought the problem to you.

[WolfieKiwi]

What should I do if a good friend of mine starts acting differently towards me when we got along pretty good before? The person has stopped taking my phone calls and my IMs and avoids me when I see them. Should I confront or just let it go?

I've experienced this before. I tried to confront but it only got worse, and it was hard to forget... But if your friend won't even face you in public, there's a slim chance on getting to him or her about the problem... The best advice is to let it go.

[mikestorm]

I've experienced this before. I tried to confront but it only got worse, and it was hard to forget... But if your friend won't even face you in public, there's a slim chance on getting to him or her about the problem... The best advice is to let it go.

Completely agreed. You'll only end up being annoyed at yourself for appearing so obsessive over getting ahold of this person and again at sounding so needy when you do, (Why won't you return my phonecalls or IMs?).

Mentally write off the friend here and now. Let it go. Not everything in this life has closure, and even if you got it it wouldn't change anything and might hurt your feelings in the process.

[Dr. OneWay]

Well, I am a very impulsive person, so what I would do is probably walk up to their door when I knew they were home, and demanded to come in. After bashing down the door, I would make them tell me exactly why they have been avoiding me for a long time. ON THE OTHER HAND: Don't do that, because you could get your feelings really hurt. Either way, you can confront them drastically, or you can let it go, but you won't get closure just sitting here deciding what to do next.

[Wanted]

Something's going on with the other person... he/she needs space. You may never talk to each other again, but that's what happens.

[Daredevil_2003]

Depends on how much you care. If you can't live without this person, figuratively speaking, then confront them. I dont know about you, but I'd rather get my feelings hurt with the truth then have that big, ambiguous hole in my life.

If they are not that high on your totem pole however, just write them off, if you're not important enough for them to talk to you then they are not worth your time.

[guinaevere]

When the time is right and the opportunity presents itself, inquire if you have done something to hurt or offend the other person.

If the person answers no: Let it go.
If the person answers yes: Discuss and see what you can do to make amends.
If the person is truly curious why you asked: Mention that you two haven't been able to spend as much time together as you used to, and was wondering if you had done something to injure them.
If the person pretends not to understand: Let it go.

[Warrior Kitana]

It would depend on how close of friends you once were and how much you care. Personally, if it was someone I truly care about I would give them time and later confront them, after one try (if they still push me aside and ignore me) I would not take it farther. The ball would then be in their court. The way I feel, if they were truly your friend, they wouldn't throw it away over something senseless (especially if I did nothing wrong).

If they're not so close, then I would let it go. They're not worth your time anyway, if they choose to ignore you like that. Their loss, not mine. :yawn:

[GhostMail]

take a **** on there bed...it could help.

[Captain Zechs]

Wow, you are quite annoying Ghost, please refrain from acting so stupid in such threads.

Well, I can't say this has happened to me before, because it hasn't, but the best advice I would give you is, let it be for a bit, maybe something is going on within their family, or something that they just dont know how to deal with, and so they take it out on you by ignoring you. Trust me, I am sure there is a reason, and if it is because you "ruin" their image, then let me tell you, they are not your friend.

[Drachentöter]

Wow, you are quite annoying Ghost, please refrain from acting so stupid in such threads.

Haha, I thought it was kind of funny in a crude way. You know...lighten the mood.

As for the actual subject, um...I vote let it go.

[GhostMail]

I'm funny.

[SilentBat18]

uhu... funny...

Anyway, the rest of the crew be correct. If this sea dog be a true mate, then it be wise to confront 'em. But if the bilge-rat be another addlepate (fool) then keelhaul the landlubber before sending him to Davy Jone's Locker as ye sit back and enjoy sucking the monkey with the rest of the crew. Yo-ho-ho and a bottle of rum! Godspeed!

PS Happy Talk Like A Pirate Day lads and lassies! Arrrrrrr!

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

Is your friend Male or Female?

Eheh. Not to get into a sex war, but it seems to be this kind of thing is very common with females, eh? ;)