Need Advice on a Girl

[Lodoss War Fan]

I meet this real hot girl at a new year's eve party and I can't get her out of my mind! :( A friend of mine is friends with her, :D I've been out of the dating scene for a while now :( really lonely :( . Anybody got any advice on how I can get her attention?. Should I ask my friend to help me hook up with her? what should I do to impress her, should I try to show off in front of her or maybe a new look :confused:
Man! I got a real bad crush :o

[The Dork Knight]

The best advice is to be yourself. Be nice, be kind. Make them laugh. Tell nice little jokes. Do different pick-up lines. Here's an example. You ask "Did it hurt?". She asks "What hurt?". You say "When you fell from heaven, did it hurt?". Classic. Pure classic. That's the best I can give you. You see I have huge crushes on four girls. It's really hard to choose which one. Frankly I need advice myself.

- Foley Is Good

[The Penguin]

You say you met this hot girl. Did you talk at all? How did she act toward you?

I don't claim to be a relationship expert (no girlfriend either :( ), but I always feel that the most important thing is to be yourself. I would certainly have your friend help you out a little because he/she knows her better than you. Your friend might have some ideas on what this girl is looking for, or if she's even looking.

But I really think that if you have to change who you are or how you look just be with someone, you could be starting off on the wrong foot.
If you do the "wrong kind" of showing off, you could come off looking like a show-off and any girl worth having is not going to be into that. Granted if you show-off "correctly" you might come off looking "cute" which would be a good thing, but how you decide which is which would have to be up to you.

That's all I got.

[Trent Lane]

Be yourself, THE number one rule. If you change to impress and they fall for that image, you've got to keep it going. If you lose it, you'll lose her. If she really likes you, then she like you for who you really are- it's far and few between, but it's worth it if it's right... sorry, don't mind the rambling :o

[Failure]

Definteily try to get your friend to intro u to her, if that hasnt been done already.

This Depends on personal preference, but I'd say avoid pickup lines. Way too much cheese. Clever witticisms unrelated to pickup lines are a huge plus though.

I'd recommend not changing your look either. Ideally, everyone should be able to be themselves. But when push comes to shove, it's better to have people change to adapt to you than the other way around.

Most of all, just keep your cool. Good luck!

[Naraht]

Forget them,...
What girls really like, is when you kidnap them, and brainwash them into liking you...it's fun, you should try it!!!

ok, so you're looking for something "legal"

Fine

umm, my method of being very shy, and avoiding them has yet to work...neither has being myself. I've found being myself nets me a friend....not a girlfriend....

I'm not good @ this sorta thing...I'm 23 a have never been on a date. Bleh...

[Nightflower]

Well, even if I'm a girl, I really suck at reading people and situations and I think you should know this before reading more...

I agree with everyone here, don't try to show off or get a new look. If she falls for the person that you pretend to be, but aren't, you'll have to keep up that act (It's very difficult to do it consistently, especially over a long period of time, if you get that far. Here's hoping!). Even if you manage to pull it off, wouldn't you feel better if she liked you and not that fake person? Sorry to get cliched.

Eh......pick-up lines don't work, unless they're said in jest and the person receiving them knows this. Even then, it's a little flaky.

I think you should ask your friend, that's a good idea; but first, get to know her a little better and in that way, she can know you better as well. Although, there are some people who are willing to go out with a person they just met, but I don't really know the crowd you run with, and I don't know if that is the case.

[langden alger]

well..i guess i'm an expert for all the wrong reasons..as a general rule girls don't like me. well sure they're nice to me at times, but it's in that 'excuse me may i get by now' or please pass the salt, thank you, goodbye.' kinda way" lol...so, since you natually obesses with what you can't have, i've talked to many and learned from many mistakes...it all really depends on what kind of girl your dealing with. being yourself only really goes so far. it works with open minded cool girls.. but hey, whats the ratio of friendly, sweet girls versus the hot, insensitve mean and shallow ones?? ;) the mean, hot ones generally don't really like you to talk too much...especially about yourself, your interests...your better off dumbing it down and talking about whatever the flavor of the month is...and as far as any kind of girl goes-don't corner them. let em breath by all means...go about your daily routine. let them come to you most times..dont always be the one who calls or im's or emails, whatever...as long as your relaxed, calm and collected they're relaxed and having fun. after that, you'll laugh and have a good time. always do whatever you have to in order to keep a cool head. i find it easy to do this by just imagining i'm sitting there hanging with one of my best friends. i keep that mind set and i feel a little better. women want a guys who's confinent and funny. confidence is your edge. it also is the main key to being funny. it's the easiest way to get a laugh. ESPECIALLY with women. its nomally very attractive to them...in the end all women are different really. just like us guys, they're all uniqye in some kind of way..so natually you can't go by a play book for every single thing...but just keep a few of these general rules that normally apply in mind and you should be okay. good luck man!

[Nightflower]

Langden has got a good point. Confidence is very important, because without it, you're apt to disappear into the crowd. But confidence shouldn't be confused with showing off; it's just being you but amplified ten times over :p

And yes, a sense of humor is very sexy. At least for me, anyway.

[I Love My Boyfriend!]

You don't need to change or try to impress anybody.
Just be yourself.
If the girl don't like you for just being you then she isn't worth it in the first place.

Like the old saying "There's plenty of fishes in the sea " it just takes time to catch the right fish.

Also, I think you are more infatuated by the way she looks.
But if you want to go into a relationship with someone sorely on their looks,
chances are that it won't last nor will the relationship blossom.
A superficial relationship is a doomed relationship.

Well here's my advice,
since you have a friend that knows her,
ask the friend as a favor to tell her that you are interested in her
and to get her reaction to weather she feels the same way about you.
With this way your friend can tell you weather you there's sparks or not without any real rejection on your part.

If there is sparks,
then make sure to take it slow, get to know her and see if there's common interests and a lot of eye contact ( it's a fact that our eyes can draw a lot of passion between 2 individuals)
also, make sure you smell good, put on a good cologne, it can heighten your male scent and pheromones.

Good luck

[The Penguin]

Good or bad, be sure to let us know how this all comes out.

Good luck

Remember, be yourself. :)

[zero zero nine]

I'm with naraht here, man. Being myself really didn't work. Being someone else REALLY didn't work. But don't do what I did... I got all Bruce Wayne-y... and like tried to perfect myself in nearly every skill possible... (except art, 'cause I can't draw :p) Because in my mind... if i didn't have skill, I had nothing. So here I am, the super-overachiever going on... (i don't know why, but girls HATE super- overachievers) :confused: and you know what? My girlfriend now (she wasn't my girlfriend when she told me this... but it's kinda the reason she is now) said "You know, I like you, not because you could probably beat up anyone on the street, or you play the piano really well, or whatever... it's because you're there when I need you..." *awwwwww* keep in mind that i knew her for a year before this happened...

My advice to you: If you have a Batman logo shirt, wear it around her. See, wearing Superman shirts is trendy and cool, symbolic of how "super" you are, but Batman is for the true comic book weirdos... (hey i own like THREE batman shirts) :p if she understands and still thinks you're cool... 'cause remember, the REAL you likes comics, and cartoons, and BATMAN... then you may have a keeper there...

[Lodoss War Fan]

I'm sad and depressed :( :(
my friend said she was single and when we all hanged out yesterday I got up enough nerves to ask her if I can take her out to a dinner and a movie this saturday, she said she was busy,
I said some other time then :confused: she said that it wasn't a good idea cuz she's seeing someone. :(
and I was just being myself / yeah yeah I know it sucks to be me..
:mad: my friend said she is really single, but I wasn't her type and she thought I was a little dorky :( apparently I have 0 luck with hot females.

[Trent Lane]

Hey, man, don't feel too glum. I got a harsher "no" than that the first time I asked this girl out. Actually, the first two pretty much ripped my heart out and stomped on it. You know, it may not seem this way now, but it's probably for the best. I'm way happier now than I would have been with either of them- I'm with a girl who tolerates me! And everything about me. Your day will come, sooner than later....

[Psycho Fox]

Don't let this get ya down. There are more women out there.

[ZorBrak]

I can't help ya I'm horrible with women, I always run out of things to talk about and then theres a dead silence and that kills it all jus about everytime hehe....only thing I ever got going for me is my humor and that only gets me so far...my only advice is listen to the other guys and gals. but it's okay dude if she doesn't like ya then she jus' doesnt deserve ya think of it that way...

[Failure]

That's rough. If she was gonna lie to you like that though. Well... screw it. You'll bounce back. With a better chick.

[zero zero nine]

Don't feel bad... because guess what? YOU JUST MET. A lot of girls don't like it when near total strangers ask them out on dates (i know this because they told me so when I asked them out) unless 1) the guy is superattractive or 2) super-flossin with his money...

I know it kinda sucks... sometimes it seems like you have to save a girl's life to get them to notice and like you... and then all someone else has to do is smile :confused:

It's a truly unfair world.

Good luck!

[optimal321]

Believe me, i've been there.

Heck, i'm still there.

But that's why i didn't bother to try and give you my advice. I just try my best to not think about it. I know it sucks. :(

[The Dork Knight]

Originally posted by Lodoss War Fan
I'm sad and depressed :( :(
my friend said she was single and when we all hanged out yesterday I got up enough nerves to ask her if I can take her out to a dinner and a movie this saturday, she said she was busy,
I said some other time then :confused: she said that it wasn't a good idea cuz she's seeing someone. :(
and I was just being myself / yeah yeah I know it sucks to be me..
:mad: my friend said she is really single, but I wasn't her type and she thought I was a little dorky :( apparently I have 0 luck with hot females.

Trust me, I've heard that line a thousand times. Do what I do. Stalk them... :D Just kidding. Beg her! Don't know how many times I've tried that. Hell, I know that's bad advice, but what can I do? I'm a 13 year old!

- Foley Is Good

[Overkill of ASE]

I'm going to tell you what I tell everyone else:

Being a eunuch doesn't seem so cool at first, but once you see people's lives get shattered by the modern dating scene, you'll quickly realize that you're smarter than 99% of everyone. And you'll feel great, too.

[Psycho Fox]

Originally posted by Overkill of ASE
I'm going to tell you what I tell everyone else:

Being a eunuch doesn't seem so cool at first, but once you see people's lives get shattered by the modern dating scene, you'll quickly realize that you're smarter than 99% of everyone. And you'll feel great, too. Please tell me your kidding :eek:

[Overkill of ASE]

I kid you, not.

[SonGoku V3]

Trust me, he's not kidding.*lol*

To the guy who's having problems, not only do you need to be yourself, but you need to have CONFIDENCE. I can't stress that enough. Try to start a conversation with this girl, see what her interests are, and tell her about yourself. I think yu made a big mistake by being so forward and asking her for a date so soon. You need to show her you can hang around with her, and she can hang with you. Show her you can make her laugh and smile. Show her you can listen to what she has to say and that you have a genuine interest in her. As soon as you can accomplish that, then once you ask her out again, there's a great chance that she'll say yes. :)

[The Guard]

Don't feel bad man. I didn't even GET an answer when I asked out Sarah. And this is a girl that asked ME out not long ago...

Oh...and whatever you do...DON'T STALK THEM. Or talk to them. Because if you do...they'll THINK you're stalking them, or worse, and you'll get fired, and the cops called when you come in and-(cough)...I mean...hang in there. I'm just kidding. Your luck is BOUND to be better than mine was...lol.

And the eunuch thing...not a bad idea for awhile. And there's nothing wrong with being "all Bruce Wanye-y...just make sure theres a Batman side too...

Ok I'm done. Really though, if you need to talk...

[Karkull]

Originally posted by flhero311
Hey, man, don't feel too glum. I got a harsher "no" than that the first time I asked this girl out.

At least that's a straight answer. I had two different girls who thought I was joking and laughed in my face.

[Trent Lane]

No, I got the classic "Oh, that's so sweet" answer. It's like I was four y/o asking a 16 y/o out or something... quite embarassing, glad no one else was around... :o

[NewMaxFranklin]

A few girls tried to get me to ask them out in highschool. I just pretended not to notice that they were being flirty and they stopped trying. Girls are good that way, it seems. But, they must know how persistent guys can be. They know that they have make them aware that there's NO CHANCE , without trying to seem too mean about it. If they change their minds about the guy they know they just have to give him a glance to ge back in his favor. :rolleyes:

Now that I'm off on my own and interested in dating I can't meet ANYONE. Serves me right, I guess. :rolleyes: